A long time ago, after thinking about the erotic stories I’d read and movies I’d seen (admittedly not a huge sample) and then thinking about the fact I find porn dull and generally an arousal-killer, I came to the following conclusion:
Eroticism works by stimulating your imagination
Pornography assumes you don’t have any imagination
While there are exceptions to everything, this seems to be a reasonably valid distinction.
On a totally different topic, your nom-de-plume prodded my addled brain to churn out a list of alternatives: Pat Ella, Jen New (helps if you speak French for this one), Anne Kell, and so on…