A nice article, Jessica. In my experience of dealing with the perpetually dissatisfied/angry/negative type of person I’ve invariably found (with the exception of those who are certified as mentally ill with illnesses such as schizophrenia, etc.) that such people are, at bottom, deeply afraid. They use anger as a way to mask from themselves the fear they do not wish to confront. Often, but not always, this fear results from traumatic loss. The angry person is afraid of the pain that loss induces and they are angry at the universe that they suffered such pain, so as a response they cloak their fear with anger and direct this anger outward onto everyone and everything around them. Unfortunately it’s usually extremely difficult if not totally impossible to get such people to begin to shift their patterns of thought, because the underlying fear is so great.

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