An excellent common-sense article, Octavia. My on-and-off attempts at dating have generally felt (in the USA) far more like job interviews and it was often difficult to get a sense of the other person. This was sad, because all I wanted to do was to meet people and learn about them and, perhaps, make a new friend or two. As most people aren’t actually very good at sex (largely because of hangups) it’s not very high on my personal list of objectives, but getting to know the other person always is. If more people (men and women) followed your advice then dating would be far more interesting, real, and enjoyable!

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