Everyone’s Story is Different

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It’s a curious thing but there’s never any shortage of people eager to tell us what is normal, what is acceptable, and what is desirable. In general these folk mean well, but they’re merely extrapolating from their own likes and prejudices. I’ve been fortunate in my life to have been intimate with many women and I’ve listened carefully to each one, learning from every experience and in the process having all of my preconceptions changed beyond recognition.

When it comes to sexuality, there’s no shortage of what is basically misinformation. Unfortunately in our Politically Correct hyper-sensitive age, it’s generally unwise to challenge the current transiently fashionable beliefs. One is likely to be accused of all manner of bad things, all of which come from the Big Bag of Stock Opprobrium. As a middle-aged (or frankly just old and wrinkly) highly educated white male I’m an easy and obvious target for gender-based outrage.

With that in mind, here goes….

It’s currently fashionable to believe that women are simply wired differently from men. In order to enjoy sex they need a long build-up. They need to feel safe and loved.

This is actually just Victorian sentiment dressed up as modern-day wisdom.

Here’s the reality: for nearly all of our evolutionary history we’ve been a prey species, snatching…