I suppose it all comes down to what one wants. You’re looking (it seems) for a full-time permanent relationship so clearly the age and maturity difference creates an insuperable barrier. But perhaps a little extra curricular light-hearted going-nowhere fun isn’t necessarily in conflict with your fundamental goal? After all, while we may dream of moving to France one day there’s nothing to stop us enjoying Hawaii for brief vacations in the meantime. They aren’t mutually exclusive options.

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