I’m not sure you’re treating orgasms like a race, more like something you enjoy as often as you can. When I’m having sex, the more I am enjoying it the longer I want it to last. I’ve occasionally managed a “quickie” but never in less than 15 minutes, and more normally it’s 60–90 minutes at a time, repeated two or three times if the situation permits. This means my partner usually gets to cum many times before my own orgasms, which can be delightful but it’s also perfectly fine if she doesn’t cum at all, but enjoys the sex nevertheless. If you’re able to cum fast and often, good for you! As best as I can summarize my own attitude, “it’s all good” and everything is to be relished.

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