In my experience the only reliable definition of “kink” is derived from the perspective of the person applying the label, videlicet: an activity or idea that someone else enjoys but which I myself do not yet consider normal.

I think it’s great that people are claiming the word as a positive indicator, but I suspect those who are less comfortable with their sexuality will merely find another term of opprobrium to employ.

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