Joe, I’d also say there may be another category: where you’re totally happy being on your own, feel good about your life, and date occasionally because you’re genuinely interested in people and tend to learn things when interacting with others. On the occasions where I’ve dated I regard dates as social occasions rather than as potential mate-sourcing or potential sex opportunities. Sure, sometimes these dates do end up involving sexual intimacy if that’s something both want at that moment in time, but it’s very far indeed from the primary motivator. At least for me. It’s about expanding my horizons and my understanding of others.

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