Loss And Gain
If we wish to grow, we must learn to accept loss
We navigate through life as best as we can, but so much is far beyond our control. Although we attempt to paddle in a direction we believe to be advantageous, the tides may take us far from where we imagined we’d end up. And as we go, we will encounter all manner of events that in our innocent youth we simply never even imagined.
In an increasingly dynamic world, few escape the experience of major loss. Even losses that in themselves have limited emotional resonance — for how many people, in truth, really love their jobs but merely need the income they provide? — the consequences can be devastating. We are fortunate that in the developed world we rarely nowadays suffer the loss of a child, which is perhaps the most unbearable loss of all. But we do lose romantic partners, lifelong friends, and close family members. We lose jobs, houses, and dreams. We may become estranged from those we love, or they may simply move away and let communication wither and die as the years pass.
Loss is an inevitable part of living, so how we react to loss is what matters. Our reaction is (in theory at least if rarely in practice) the only element somewhat under our control.
Anger is a common reaction to loss, especially if it’s easy to blame some individual and thereby avoid taking…
