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Not Your Typical Medium Sex Article
As a European I find it deeply saddening how many women here on Medium write about their sexual experiences in a “never again” modality. Apparently nearly every activity except (perhaps) the heterosexual missionary position and cunnilingus is cause for someone to be distressed or turned off or suffer lasting emotional damage.
This is, I suspect, because the USA is the most sexually repressed and fearful of all the OECD nations. When I arrived in the USA in 1980 I quickly realized it was circa 1870 with slightly better toys. When I moved to California permanently in 1991 I found little had changed except perhaps people were more anxious about sex, more fearful about life in general, and even more repressed. And this was the San Francisco Bay Area, epicenter (supposedly) of American hedonism!
My own experiences stand in stark contrast to those contained within the average Medium sex article. My childhood was mostly spent in the back-end-of-beyond in various developing nations: think dust, mosquitoes, irregular electricity, stifling heat and no concept of air conditioning, dodgy water, no phone or radio or television, and sometimes very little physical safety either. Fortunately I landed in Europe at the age of 15 and more or less remained there for the next fifteen years.
