Privileged White Male Writes About Sex

There’s a lot of writing about sex here on Medium, which is a good thing. Sexuality is central to our lives. What’s curious is that nearly all the articles I see in my feed are written by women. The few articles written by men are without exception Politically Correct, echoing currently fashionable beliefs about male and female sexuality.

The problem with Political Correctness is that it’s just a dogma, and like all dogmas it attempts to crush alternative perspectives in order to enforce The One True Way. History tells us this is never a good idea.

It’s a curious thing that as far as heterosexual norms are concerned, Political Correctness is not dissimilar to attitudes pertaining in Victorian England. This isn’t entirely surprising, as attitudes towards sexuality in the USA are in several ways rather similar to those of Victorian England circa 1870. Unfortunately those attitudes were erroneous and unhelpful.

The central problem with all dogmas regardless of their provenance is the assumption of a one-size-must-fit-all paradigm. Aside from biologically obvious phenomenon such as the need for oxygen and water to keep us alive, it is rarely the case that one size of anything will suit all of us. Harm is then caused when ordinary human diversity clashes with The One True Way.