Regarding whether or not most men have fantasies about violating women, I suspect it depends on how much experience they have of role play. In the abstract a “consensual rape” fantasy can sound very hot but after real-life experience of similar scenes one rapidly becomes aware of the fact there are so many variables that reality rarely matches fantasy and this in turn leads to all kinds of reactions. In the end, the responsibility required to play the role dramatically overshadows any potential erotic content for the man involved. At least that’s been my experience personally and the experience of other men who’ve likewise been involved in similar situations. One’s duty of care is always paramount.