Sadly, this story is not uncommon. Very few people in the tier one community in the West, for example, find their partner able to sustain a relationship in the face of hardship. The only pragmatic thing is to do what the officer here did, and provide a grip by means of which to restore focus. A distracted operator is a dead operator. Unfortunately, the statistics show wives and girlfriends are more often a liability than an asset when the going gets rough.