Thanks Ena for a very useful article. Personally, as someone who’s done a lot of threesomes (mostly in the context of being part of a couple, but a few as the single man) I’ve found, in contrast to your experience, it is infinitely easier to arrange MFMs than FMFs. I think this is due to a combination of factors, many of which are obvious. The key thing in either dynamic is, as you say, being relaxed, ensuring compatibility, and having realistic expectations. Whatever you go for, threesomes only work if there’s no jealousy, no fear, and no treating the third person like a living fantasy-machine. It’s about human connection, not about positions and combinations (though of course once the dynamics are there, everything is fun!).

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