Thanks Tania for a well-written piece. BDSM is one of those things that, from the outside, seems impossible to understand so the easy route is for people to interpret the dynamic through their own prejudices formed by the trite cliches of pop culture (“it must be abuse!”). From the inside, however, as you so clearly convey, it’s actually about strength and confidence. Good luck with your future explorations and pleasures.

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