Thanks Yael for a thoughtful and compassionate article, which is sadly becoming a rarity these days. I would add one note of realism acquired through a long and varied life: there are problems for which no solution is available. Under such circumstances one can only make the least-bad choice. And the person making the choice is the one best placed to do it; those around can’t truly know the totality of the factors pertaining. It’s easy to judge and moralize (let’s face it, we all do it) but empathy is sometimes the best response, even when a person’s decision goes against one’s own stock of hand-me-down moral “values.”