Thanks Yael for another very helpful article. I suspect the more in touch with one’s emotions one is, the more variable sexuality becomes. For myself, from a physiological perspective even at my very advanced age (my childhood pet was a pterodactyl) I’m optimal at two or three sessions per day, 30+ minutes per session. But when my partner is vulnerable or sad or in some other state where she needs comfort rather than anything else, my desire for sex is replaced with my “caregiver” instincts. Likewise, if a woman is simply too young I move into “parental” mode. And like you, if I’m in the middle of a task that needs to be completed it’s difficult to switch gears and be entirely spontaneous unless the task is one that can be safely abandoned.
In short, the more we know ourselves, the more complex we are.