The Beginner’s Guide to Anal Sex

I’ve read a lot of articles here on Medium written by women who are anxious about anal sex. Many have had bad experiences and don’t want a repeat. Many more are scared that it will hurt, it will be messy, and so forth.

So here, for what it may be worth, is a Beginner’s Guide for men and women.

For the sake of simplicity I’m going to write as if the man is doing the penetrating and the woman is being penetrated, but it’s equally applicable for men on the receiving end too.

First some background info on why anyone would even want to try anal sex.

There are thousands of nerve endings in the anus and rectum, and so when properly done penetration of the rectum can be extremely pleasurable. Many women I’ve known have told me their most intense orgasms happen during anal penetration. It’s also emotionally intense, as the receiving partner surrenders their most delicate opening to the other person. This requires trust, and that trust must be honored for a mutually pleasurable experience.

Anal sex isn’t usually dirty. The rectum is merely a passage through which fecal matter passes from the lower bowel on its way out of the body. To be on the safe side a brief enema with warm water is generally sufficient to ensure that everything is nice and clean. Never use salt water or scented water or…