Two quick observations: Firstly, people are just people and we’re attracted to different types of folk at different times in our lives. Labels don’t really help clarify anything because so much is fluid. Secondly, plenty of studies have shown that both men and women focus on the woman during porn — so it’s not necessarily any indicator of sexual orientation anyway.

Really the only thing that matters is being happy with who you are and what you want, and being willing to explore in order to discover the latter more fully.

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